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How To Stop Thinking About Someone

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Have you ever tried to stop thinking about someone but no matter hard you try to distract yourself you can’t shift those thoughts?

Maybe it’s someone you’ve just met…

A relationship that’s just broken down…

Or maybe it’s someone you’ve lost recently…

How can you stop thinking about and missing someone?

Key Takeaways From The Video

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Here are a few key takeaways from what I talk about…

1. You Control Your Thoughts

I can’t stress this enough, you’re in complete control of your thoughts. If you’re missing someone and if you can’t shift away from thinking about them it’s up to you to control it. Of course it’s going to be hard but making a conscious choice to understand why you’re thinking about them and doing something about it is the first step to getting over them.

It’s time to feed your mind a different story…

If your thoughts consist of you trying to control them, what they think about you, their behaviour or what they’re doing it’s an impossible task. You don’t control them, you control you.

2. Find The Trigger

What’s causing you to miss them as much as you do? What’s the trigger behind you struggling to stop thinking about them? Normally we can’t shut down from thinking about someone because we’re driven by sadness, in a state of lack not having them where we want them. What was the reason behind that caused this sadness?

Once you realise the trigger it’s easier to shift away from the current thoughts and start shifting towards more positive thoughts. Maybe you feel that your life moving forward without them isn’t going to make you happy, but this is just a thought you’re telling yourself. If this is the trigger change those thoughts to the positives moving forward without them.

When I lost my Dad I couldn’t stop thinking about him. There isn’t a day that goes by now where I don’t but as soon as I shifted out of victim mode and changed the negative thoughts to a more positive story I started to reduce the amount of time I spent thinking about him. Find the trigger, take control of your thoughts and change from negativity to a more positive light.

3. Let Go Of The Past

The only thing that’s important is the present moment. You can’t control the past, you can only control the present moment. Focusing on the present moment and letting go of the past will help you get over the person you’re thinking about.

4. Focus On Your Happiness

We normally think about someone often when we’re feeling unhappy, therefore shifting away from the need of them making you happy to doing something consciously to make yourself happy will help. What do you enjoy? What makes you happy? Shift your attention to these things to generate your own fulfilment and you’ll start to shift your thoughts away from them.

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Signing out…

Paul McGregor
I share my hard times to inspire your good times. Founder of MFM and soon to be published Author.
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